The following post was written by Lucy Dela Rosa a wife and mom to her daughter Emmalee. When she is not working out in the field of interior design, she is at home having picnics and tea parties with her toddler. She loves to blog about parenting, easy recipes, DIY projects and a whole lot of momsense! You can connect with her more on her blog, Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest.
As a couple enters into the world of parenting, suddenly everything changes. Sometimes they are faced with the challenge of maintaining a strong, healthy and loving relationship. More time is devoted to everyday tasks such as cooking, cleaning and parenting duties. Oftentimes we forget how to balance marriage and parenting life. This may lead one partner to start feeling distant and neglected by the other.
What is there to do about it? What if you want and need to do everything you can to keep the spark alive but you don’t know where to begin? Here are 5 ways you can spend more time with your significant other and re-ignite those flames!Check out the 5 simple ways @ohthatsmomsense is sharing to start spending more time with your… Click To Tweet
1. Go out for date night
Hire a sitter to watch the kids one night out of the month so that you and your other half can go out for date night. Go out and have dinner somewhere. Pick a place you both haven’t tried yet to avoid the “Where do you want to go? I don’t know. Where do you want to eat? I don’t know!” argument. Sound familiar? Or maybe there’s a movie you’ve been dying to see. Going out on date nights once or twice a month is enough to help stay connected with your partner.
2. Go to bed together
My husband has always been a night owl and I’ve always loved going to bed early. Often times I go to bed before he does and he hops into a bed a few hours later. When I started to feel a little disconnected, I made it a point that once in a while we have to go to bed at the same time. By doing this you and your spouse will most likely wake up at the same time, therefore allowing you to spend more time together during those waking hours. Going to bed together also allows for a little bit of cuddle time before you both drift off into dream land. If you co-sleep with the children, it still doesn’t hurt to go to bed at the same time so that you’ll all be well rested for this next tip.
3. Have family day out
Do things together as a family. This can be something as big as going to an amusement park for a day or something as small as running errands as a family. It may not be the one-on-one time you’ve been hoping for, but what matters most is that you are getting that time to spend with your spouse! Hold your husband’s hand, run your fingertips up and down his back while waiting in the grocery store checkout line, or just tell him how much you appreciate him helping you with the groceries.
4. Spend quality time together after the kids go to bed
Once you put the kids to bed, have a glass of wine or a beer together and watch that show on Netflix that you wouldn’t dare watch in front of the kids. Maybe you have a yearning for more intimacy? Use this time now while you are alone together!
5. Put away your phones
Whatever it is that you do on your phone on a daily basis, whether it’s checking emails, checking your social media accounts or texting your best friend, set it aside and focus all your attention on your spouse. At the end of a long day, make your spouse your priority. If the kids are present, there’s definitely a way to make both your kids and your spouse your main focus of the night, without the use of your smart phones. Put on a movie, pop some popcorn and turn it into a family movie night. If you get text messages, don’t answer them. It can wait. Unless it’s a serious emergency and your phone is blowing up, put away the distractions.
In order to keep a healthy relationship going with your spouse, it’s important to make it a priority to spend time together. It doesn’t always have to be alone time, just time together! If you start to feel a little distant from your spouse, communicate your feelings and work together on ways that you can deal with it.
What are some other things you can do to spend more time with your guy? Is there anything that you’ve done that has been a success?