Being a wife and mom is hard. Like, really hard. So often it feels like there just aren’t enough hours in the day to take care of everything, everyone and attempt to take care of ourselves at all.
It’s so easy to get completely caught up in the tyranny of the urgent – those mundane, everyday demands that can suck us dry if we aren’t careful.
I am well-acquainted with what it feels like to be juggling a million different things at once, constantly rotating the hats I’m wearing, as I try to be everything and do everything for everyone.
No one can do or be everything all at once, and when we try, becoming overwhelmed or burnt out is what inevitably happens.
Signs of Being Overwhelmed:
- Feeling exhausted or drained
- Lacking motivation
- Difficulty sleeping or relaxing
- Difficulty focusing
- Heightened or numbed emotions
- Feeling anxious or isolated
- Reduced performance
To a certain extent, there are some things that are just unavoidable in particular seasons of life. Some things are out of our control. But if we are being honest, really honest with ourselves, there is far more that is in the realm of our control than we realize!!
I am convinced that what often causes us to get sucked into the vortex of feeling flustered, frazzled, burnt out and completely overwhelmed is choosing to bear the weight of way to much pressure all at once.
Whether we are putting the pressure on ourselves, or allowing others to pile the pressure on us, at the end of the day WE are the ones who get to say, “Enough is enough.” It is up to US to stop whatever is overwhelming us right in its tracks and tell it where to go.
What to Do When You’re Overwhelmed
Here are a few practical steps that can help you work through feeling overwhelmed and get back to feeling re-centered! I’ve also created a pretty little cheat sheet that you can print out and hang somewhere that you’ll see it often. Just pop your email in below to instantly download it!
1. Take a break
Stop whatever you’re doing, wherever you’re at and give yourself a few moments to just close your eyes and breath, blocking out noise and distractions. Tell yourself that everything is going to be okay. Affirm your ability to make positive changes in your circumstances and release your feelings of being out of control.
2. Nourish Yourself
So often we will push ourselves too hard and too far without properly nourishing our bodies, minds and souls. Ask yourself some basic questions: When did I eat last? Am I well hydrated? Do I need sleep? Do I need time with loved ones? How am I feeling? When did I last do something for myself? Checking in with ourselves and asking basic questions can help us see where there is a deficiency in our self care, enabling us to be proactive in nourishing ourselves so we are better prepared for life in general!! You can’t take care of anything or anyone else if you don’t first take care of yourself!
Give yourself a break from electronics, whether for 2 minutes or a whole afternoon. If you’re feeling really gutsy, try to go a whole day and see what a difference it makes!! Checking out and unplugging a bit can work wonders in feeling less tethered to external pressures and demands.
4. Clean Up
Take 10 or 15 minutes and do a quick tidying up of your surroundings. Oftentimes physical clutter equates to mental clutter, so by cleaning up what you are physically seeing and experiencing you are literally helping your brain to relax more!
5. Brain Dump
Get everything out of your head and onto paper, and I mean everything! This exercise is powerful, especially if you don’t have someone that you can verbally brain dump to. Once all of your thoughts, worries, feelings, to-dos, etc are out on paper and you’ve properly acknowledged them, then you can DO something with them!
You have to actively choose what really matters and what doesn’t. When you feel like you have a million things that HAVE to get done right away, I promise that all those things aren’t actually things that must be done right this very second. Go back to basics and assess which things are truly non-negotiable, and which things aren’t. Start at the beginning and take one step at a time, giving lots of grace and having patience in the process!
7. Ask for Help
No one can do everything themselves. Be brave and DELEGATE. Ask your husband, a family member, a friend, or even hired help to make sure what needs to get done is getting done, but you’re not driving yourself into the ground making it happen.Check out these 7 things to do when you're overwhelmed! Click To Tweet
And, if you really want to practice finding peace and focus amidst chaos and overwhelm, you should totally take my #10DayPeacePursuit Challenge!!
It’s super simple. You just click HERE, pop your name and email in to sign up and then every day for the next 10 days you’ll receive a daily lesson filled with hope, encouragement and purposeful action delivered straight to your inbox! Easy as pie.
I promise that at the end of the 10 days, you’ll have found more peace, purpose and joy in your life AND you’ll be equipped with real strategies that actually work that you can continue implementing for the rest of your life!
I hope this was helpful for you because I know how isolating it can feel to be totally overwhelmed by everything on your plate, but not sure what to do to fix it. When that happens, just look at your cheat sheet, come let us encourage you in The Home Loving Wife Sisterhood and remember – be kind to yourself, you’re doing the best you can!!